Financial Burden

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I am not writing this for sympathy or anything of that sort. I am writing this to inform y’all of the current situation…

One of the biggest pitfalls of being a prison wife is the financial burden it places on the family. I know I don’t have many followers yet, especially since I took almost a year off from blogging. But due to my families current circumstances I am not going to be able to renew my account for The Mindful Mama.

I will keep going until WordPress gives me the boot and maybe my circumstances will change & this will become a luxury that I can afford again. 🙂

Namasté Y’all ♥

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Milk Maid Mama

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So, first off, yes my job provides a private space for me to pump. I just didn’t feel like tracking down the person with the key to unlock the room for me. By the time I did all that, I could have been done. So I’m sitting in the closet of the meeting room just in case someone walks in they won’t immediately see me and I can pull the door shut. Improvisation at its finest. My truck is in the shop getting a new oil pump, (FINALLY) yay!!!! That’s usually where I pump at since it’s my own little personal domain with all my snacks, drinks, music, etc…

So far, this is the weirdest place I’ve had to pump… What about you, where’s the oddest place you e milked yourself?

Namasté Y’all ❤️

Slacker & Valentine’s Day

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I’m a slacker… There’s no other way to say it other than I have not been able to figure out how to find time for myself. That means that The Mindful Mama is suffering, I’m on the very edge of exhaustion &  burnout, I haven’t been able to do yoga in WAY too long and I have even been slacking off on my cooking and cleaning. I am balancing so many plates right now & at some point they’re all going to come crashing down around me if I don’t figure out how to stack them better and quickly at that! I can feel it coming…th62G4IVGB

It’s amazing to me the way nature works. I was so tired that I slept through my alarm this morning. Not only did I sleep through my alarm, but I also slept through 3 calls from my sitter and her banging on the door for 10 minutes this morning! She got so worried (thanks for loving us enough to worry Tita) that she called my Dad at work. If the Tiniest human wouldn’t have whimpered (I’m talking about a tiny grunt as he stretched and rolled over) I wouldn’t have heard the phone ring when my Dad called me! I can sleep through all that with the phone literally right by my head, but my children barely make a sound & I jump up immediately.  The way God created the mind and abilities of us Mama’s is truly amazing! Needless to say I made it to work and I was only a few minutes late…

thX9P14GS1My new job is amazing. I am loving the people I work with. But, my favorite part, everything is brand spankin’ new! The entire kitchen is so clean & shiny! me & 3 other girls get to unpack, clean & organize everything. So we get to set up the kitchen exactly how we want. If there’s anything we want/need (like a few more shelves on the walls or more tongs, etc) we tell our boss and he will get it for us. Tomorrow I get to set up my bar! I didn’t like where the guy installed the drink dispenser gun so I told my manager and he had them come back and move it to where I wanted. (It was in a really awkward spot, right above the hand sink at the very beginning of the bar so I would have had to literally go out of my way every single time I needed it, which is a lot)  SO, anyway, I get to use everything brand new & clean and I’m not having to go into a dump and try to fix 30 other peoples mess… It’s awesome…

So, tomorrow is Valentine’s Day and I have yet to do a post for y’all with ideas, crafts,

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Daddy’s V-Day card

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The small one coloring on Daddy’s card

recipes, or anything of that nature. Like I said, I’m a slacker… I just realized that it’s the tiniest one’s first V-Day tomorrow and I didn’t make or even buy him an outfit, shirt, bib, nothing… I did manage to send out a cute V-Day art thing for hubby from his boys…

Anyway, my small human has literally been screaming from his bed for like 15 minutes now. I guess that means he will not be going to sleep yet :/  Maybe I’ll get to make another post soon..

11:45 p.m. and I have FINALLY been able to get the boys to sleep! Now let’s see if I have enough energy left to write hubby a letter, do 10 minutes of yoga and shower. Let’s pray I am able to wakeup on time in the morning!

How are y’all celebrating the love present in your life? It doesn’t have to be a significant other. It can be your parents, children, friend, extended family, pets, etc. Let’s take the time to show the people in our lives how much they matter! How are y’all doing that this Valentine’s Day?

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Namaste Y’all ❤

Working Outside of the Home

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For over 2 years now I have been a Stay At Home Mom (SAHM). 2 1/2 weeks ago I returned to work. And trust me, it has been one of the hardest things I’ve encountered in my Mamahood journey! If it wasn’t a necessity, I could honestly say, it wouldn’t be happening… But unfortunately it is a necessity for us at the moment and these are the things I have learned in the last 3 weeks.

  1. Nothing can prepare you emotionally– It doesn’t matter what you do or tell yourself, you will not be able to prepare yourself for leaving your babies. It will be harder than you expected.
  2. Have AT LEAST 2 sitters lined up!– You will need your normal everyday sitter and then at least 1 emergency backup (I would suggest having 2 backups just in case 1 is busy). I have actually had to call in to work the last 2 days because my normal sitter is in the hospital and I haven’t been able to find help on such short notice.
  3. Breastfeeding is hard, but not impossible- So far I have been blessed with the fact that my place of employment is understanding and accommodating to the fact that I am choosing to breastfeed my infant. You will have to MAKE THE TIME to pump and consciously do things to keep up your milk supply. Try to keep all your pump parts together, I have forgotten parts or the bottles twice now and my breasts hated me for it!
  4. You will feel guilty- You will question yourself and you will feel like a bad Mom. Try not to dwell in it.
  5. Burn Out- You have to, HAVE TO, rest! Don’t try to be super woman! If you’re tired, rest. With a 6 week old ( 3 1/2 weeks when I went back to work) and 3 other small boys I’m trying not to neglect, Church, Friends, Family, Cleaning, grocery shopping, my blog and online classes, etc. I am struggling to find the proper balance. I have yet to figure out how to schedule in time for my yoga and time for myself!
  6. Diet- One of the biggest changes I’ve noticed is the unfortunate way I’ve started feeding not only myself, but my family… I have started doing the unthinkable in my mind and feeding  “ready made” (frozen) to my family! I can’t stand the fact that I’m feeding them all these preservatives and stuff, but I’ve been too exhausted to cook…

So, these are the main things that I have been struggling with and actively seeking solutions too.

Did you return to work after having your baby? How long after he/she was born? What were the things you struggled with and what solutions did you come up with to push though? Please let me know in the comments, I really need to know!

Namaste Y’all ❤

 

~The Vanishing Gypsy Returns~

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The past year has been a very chaotic year for my family and I. I had to take a step back and focus on what was in front of us and unfortunately, in order to do so, I had to let my blog fall to the way side… But I’m back and hoping to be able to keep up better this go around.

I am now a Mommy of 5! The best thing that came out of the treacherous 2017 was my new son. So I now have a daughter and 4 boys! Unfortunately they all aren’t back under my roof yet, but we’re working on it.

I have unfortunately added the title of prison wife to my name so, it’s like being a single Mom without actually being single and having to take care of my husband and also having to work extra hard to make ends meet.

So, we have definitely had quite the adventure this year and I’m excited to be able to let y’all in on how I have been able to keep myself in my Spiritual practices and grounded throughout it all! So please stay tuned and don’t give up on me yet! ;

Since this month is Valentine’s Day, I have decided to create posts centered around that (I know, super original *eye roll* lol). I also have some fun things planned around International Soup Day, Carrot Cake Day, Random Act of Kindness Week, Jell-O Week, etc. So it should be a pretty interesting February for us!

Namaste Y’all! ❤

 

 

I’m Back!!!!

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Hey y’all! Well, I know I completely disappeared for a VERY long time. But I’m coming back full force starting February 1st, 2018! I am taking the remainder of the month of January to get situated and plan how I want this blog to be. I don’t just want to dive in head first like last time and get lost again. I need this as much as some of y’all do!

My entire life got twisted & turned upside down in 2017 so, I should have quite a bit of interesting material coming out…  Some of which will include how we once again moved back across the country to Tennessee, I had another baby boy (born Christmas Morning 2017), and the worst of the worst- my husband got sent to prison…

So, join me on February 1st for the re-birth of The Mindful Mama!

Namaste Y’all ❤

Let Me Know, It’s YOUR Choice!!!

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I will be starting a new blog series on Monday (April 10th). I would love to be able and write about what you are interested in reading, so please share your 2 cents now! Because it’s up to y’all what you will be ready!

Enjoy!!!